This Year I Will

Two months into this year I came across an audio book on my library’s shelves, This Year I Will…How to Finally Change a Habit, Keep a Resolution, or Make A Dream Come True by M.J. Ryan.

After listening to it at least six times, I have new thoughts and ammo to make the changes in my life I feel are important to make.

Here is just a little of what I got from Ms. Ryan’s book:

  • There is no one right way to make changes. Read, study, and decide the right way for you.
  • New Year’s resolutions need to be backed by “preparation, when we are getting ready to do it, action, as in ‘I’m starting right now’ ; and maintainance, which means we keep going until we get where we want and stay there.”
  • Understanding why I am the way I am is not nearly as important as I try to make it. Basically, I am who I am. Concentrate on changes I can make now to move towards my goals.
  • To prepare for change, M.J. Ryan includes a practice from Dawna Markova, author of The Smart Parenting Revolution. This is the first step: Write every goal you think you’d like to accomplish in the next twenty years. Write as fast as you can. (Taking my age into consideration, I quickly decided to narrow that down to five years! )
  • We do what we do because it serves some need.

I like this book because it is full of practical, common sense statements that I could relate to. She gives detailed explanations on the difficulties of making a change and follows through with steps to make the change and maintain it.

I purchased the book so I can re-read and refresh my memory as I take the first steps towards a change. I promise to report on how it is going in June.

More on M.J. Ryan and her books: http://www.mj-ryan.com and http://www.goodreads.com/author/quotes/282538.M_J_Ryan

Resolutions to Try

A friend sent me her list of resolutions for 2019 and gave me permission to share.

To keep love in my heart and find joy in the small things I encounter each day.

To remember that loneliness, depression, self-blame and guilt will pass – they are only thoughts, not who I am.

To push myself a little, gently, when inertia engulfs me.

To use my talents.

To laugh more.

To listen to music more often.

To remind myself that one person’s actions can make a difference.

To be ready to listen rather than speak.

To accept the things I cannot change.

To relish my family and friends and stay in touch.

To remember and honor the members of my family who are no longer with me.

To try to keep perceived problems and worries in perspective.

To breathe…and practice staying in the moment.

To eat smaller portions of real food, mostly plants. And to eat less sugar.

To not let fear limit me from doing things I really want to do, like traveling…

To keep walking and perhaps add strength training (inspired by RBG).

To keep a carrot in sight – games, travel books, time with friends.

To find ways to help others.

To remember that I am as young as I’ll ever be – and let that be enough.